a prima vista (at first sight)

In this world we hear these idealistic words "at first sight" in so many fairy tales.. or what little girls talk of when speaking of thier dreams, teenagers use it when talking of that future prince charming they will find, and many others use it to describe the way they felt upon first meeting... the one!

I can't say that I have ever fell in love at first sight...Vic and I are not a fairytale type of relationship. We started out as a friendship, and nither of us saw that it would be where we are at now.. however as my very closest friends said to me after the fact.. everyone else saw and hoped for it to happen....

Vic and I met when my baby girl at the time, Ali, had become ill and I was in need of a friend to help me durring the difficult hospital stay. My husband, Jake was away as his job often required. Typically I did just fine with what ever came my way for the most part when bumps in the road were thrown at me.. but this had been a particaularly bumpy month.. my oldest Ari had gotten ill, and was in the emergancy room several times that month. My secound baby girl Ana had also had her struggels that month and had also had several trips of her own to the hospital, as she frequently does, and to top it off we got the infamous, but dreaded letter from Ari's school stating there had been a lice break out in her class.... and to my horror all three girls had it! So when Ali became ill I was in need of someone to help me tread water for a bit.. My family was unavalible as they all have very busy lives, so I reached out to a friend I had become very close to in the few months since I had been back in my home state. He was at a large dance, meeting women, and just happened to have Vic with him, and so he came to the hospital out of happenstance.. Now my Ali at the time was the type who trusted no one that she did not know.. and since we had just moved from out of state, that ment everyone since family rarely visited nor friends. She had a death stare that probably should have killed at least half of the state. For some reason she latched onto Vic, and found him to be a great comfort, which I was so greatful for. We became good friends and he, as well as many others became indespensible over the next little while as I ended up having a heart surgery and other medical issues that made life a little difficult for me.

Later after my husband and I had seperated, it was completly by shock that we found we had feelings for each other than just friends...but because of the great friendship that we had prior thing bloomed very quickly. A great friend after we became a couple said to us that they thought it odd we were just friends because we seemed to fit so perfectly for one another. Now I would not say that things between us havent had thier bumps in the road.. but what relationship is any good that isnt something that you have to work at... none!!! Relationships with friends, family, parents, siblings, and children are all WORK but great work even if it doesnt feel that way some days.

As for Vic and I the trip so far has been very rewarding with lots of laughter, smiles, tears and frusterations.... all of which I would never have traded for an "at first sight" relationship!