a prima vista (at first sight)

In this world we hear these idealistic words "at first sight" in so many fairy tales.. or what little girls talk of when speaking of thier dreams, teenagers use it when talking of that future prince charming they will find, and many others use it to describe the way they felt upon first meeting... the one!

I can't say that I have ever fell in love at first sight...Vic and I are not a fairytale type of relationship. We started out as a friendship, and nither of us saw that it would be where we are at now.. however as my very closest friends said to me after the fact.. everyone else saw and hoped for it to happen....

Vic and I met when my baby girl at the time, Ali, had become ill and I was in need of a friend to help me durring the difficult hospital stay. My husband, Jake was away as his job often required. Typically I did just fine with what ever came my way for the most part when bumps in the road were thrown at me.. but this had been a particaularly bumpy month.. my oldest Ari had gotten ill, and was in the emergancy room several times that month. My secound baby girl Ana had also had her struggels that month and had also had several trips of her own to the hospital, as she frequently does, and to top it off we got the infamous, but dreaded letter from Ari's school stating there had been a lice break out in her class.... and to my horror all three girls had it! So when Ali became ill I was in need of someone to help me tread water for a bit.. My family was unavalible as they all have very busy lives, so I reached out to a friend I had become very close to in the few months since I had been back in my home state. He was at a large dance, meeting women, and just happened to have Vic with him, and so he came to the hospital out of happenstance.. Now my Ali at the time was the type who trusted no one that she did not know.. and since we had just moved from out of state, that ment everyone since family rarely visited nor friends. She had a death stare that probably should have killed at least half of the state. For some reason she latched onto Vic, and found him to be a great comfort, which I was so greatful for. We became good friends and he, as well as many others became indespensible over the next little while as I ended up having a heart surgery and other medical issues that made life a little difficult for me.

Later after my husband and I had seperated, it was completly by shock that we found we had feelings for each other than just friends...but because of the great friendship that we had prior thing bloomed very quickly. A great friend after we became a couple said to us that they thought it odd we were just friends because we seemed to fit so perfectly for one another. Now I would not say that things between us havent had thier bumps in the road.. but what relationship is any good that isnt something that you have to work at... none!!! Relationships with friends, family, parents, siblings, and children are all WORK but great work even if it doesnt feel that way some days.

As for Vic and I the trip so far has been very rewarding with lots of laughter, smiles, tears and frusterations.... all of which I would never have traded for an "at first sight" relationship!

"Too Much perfection!"

For those people who truly know me... hopefully you know that the title of this blog spot is not about being arrogant or snobbish in anyway... for those who don't let me explain what it is that I mean by it. One of my favorite movies is Bed of Roses, yes I know it's a chick flick... not like me.. but in this movie the girl plays a role that is somewhat similar to me in my life. There is a day that she has with her love interest who is a florist, where they are talking about roses and how if it weren't for the thorns they would be truly perfect... to this he brings up one certain rose that is beautiful, yet simple in color, fantastically fragrant, and perfectly thorn less... to which she replies to this rose (the sterling rose, which is also my favorite rose.. and oddly was before the movie) as too much perfection, for she has lived a life with anything but.

I am a simple woman..who loves an amazing man, and has a truley wonderful family.... who's perfection is found in anything but!! I am an American who knows in more ways than most what it means to truly sacrifice to be just that AMERICAN!! I was a military wife for 7 years... I played the "military widow" on many an occassion, and learned the great peace you can have from having a friend who understands where you are at, at just the moment when your loved one in Iraq, or one of a million other places and the kids coloring on the wall is more than you can bear for just that moment.. and I know the bitter tears of losing many a friend and soldier, and then realizing that those sweet smilies on the wall are something far less horrible than you thought before. I am also a woman who loves my Italian heritage and all the passion that comes with it!!! This passion is what pushes me on endlessly. I was blessed with a husband that all though we were not able to make our marriage work, is still one of my very best friends. With him I had three amazing, beautiful, and very passionate baby girls... all of them teach me more everyday than I ever thought possible. They are wonderfully brilliant. I am now with a man whom I adore, and even with all my thorns seems to love me anyway... he and I have had a little boy, and a darling baby girl... Out side of this... I have been given people by Gods grace that make each days living just that much more fragrant and deeply enjoyable. hopefully you know who you are.. for there are a very splendid few who I mean by that statement! But if not, or for those who do not know our young family keep posted and they will all be reveled in time as we journey along our path of TOO MUCH PERFECTION that we call life.